Thursday, July 24, 2008

Just when I finally convinced B

that he can't whoop M's ex's ass just because the man "deserves a good ass whooping," my dumbass, self-righteous ex-BIL does something to piss B off... I got this email from my sister earlier this week - (I've edited out the contact information, though I don't know why... I should have left the asshole's email addy and phone number on here - LOL

Thought you might get a chuckle out of this.....apparently you have joined me in being the root of all evil. You'd think by now I'd be over being surprised at what a horses ass my ex can be, but the fun just keeps coming. Of course then I had to Email Dr. N***** (she's doing our custody reevaluation) and apprise her of the actual situation. It's just amazing the crap he can concoct.....frighteningly enough I'm sure he actually believes this. I think my divorce once again tops your's for nastiness (LOL).

Talk to you soon,


----- Forwarded Message -----
From: B H
To: Linda N
Cc: mh
Sent: Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:33:45 -0400 (EDT)
Subject: Re: appointment

Dr. N*****,

I also feel that I need to add a situation today to the notes to be discussed.
Today when I picked up the children and they came home we went swimming.
L made a comment about her mother being pregnant and then T was very upset with her saying out loud that mom told us not to say anything and keep it a secret. Turns out that the baby is apparently a surrogate for her sister (who has 3 children from the first 2 of her 4 marriages). She also doesnt have custody because a court decided that custody should go to the father. Her older sister wanted another baby with the 4th husband but couldnt so M said she would carry it. I am very concerned that the children would be asked and have the added pressure to keep secrets (especially from their father) and that is completely inappropriate. Thanks

Blair H

My reply was basically - "Well, I guess I'm just a skank ho' who's had 19 children by 16 different men... and I didn't even friggin' realize that I don't have custody of my boys - obviously B knows better and M and I have been doing it wrong all these years. I guess I'd better go tell them they have to go back to their father's house now, since they're not allowed to be here."

I don't know what planet B is living on or in what universe he operates, but he's just not here (in the land of the sane and reasonable) with the rest of us!I had to ask M what this was all about and apparently they are currently going through a custody re-evaluation, which was built into the original agreement (review and adjustments as needed at the 1 yr anniversary) - pretty smart since I know first hand how difficult (if not impossible) it is to change custody orders once they are finalized...

Now, if B truly thought that my sister was encouraging her children to lie to him, I can see that being a concern... but he could have mentioned that to the counselor without divulging any personal details about ME. My life, my history, the number of times I've been married, MY custody situation - even if I HAD been declared an unfit mother - really have NO bearing whatsoever on THEIR custody agreement/arrangement!! It's not like my sister and I are living together or watching each other's children, even occasionally!! Of course, his intent wasn't simply to pass on information that concerned him; his true intent was to present M as a woman who would agree to carry and bear a child for a sister who is obviously unfit, since she has had several children by multiple men, all of which she has lost through the court system. M said that she sent the counselor an email expressing her opinion that the information B provided had absolutely nothing to do with the issue at hand and that, just "for the record," I do have joint custody of my sons and always have.

The other pertinent fact being that she didn't ask the children to lie to B in the first damn place!! When she told them about the baby, L (bless her sweet little heart) jumped up and asked if she could call her daddy to tell him; M told her that, no, she could not - that B would find out about it, and while it was not a secret, right now it really wasn't any of his concern so L didn't need to make an immediate phone call. M says that L's the "informer" - I know how that is!! I have one, too!

Anyway, I read the email outloud to B who asked me to read it a second time, then let out a long breath and mumbled, "He shoulda just left me, left us, out of it..." Now we're all thinking it would be a BAD idea for my B to ever meet M's B. Let's just say that, if the two DO ever meet, B is planning on handling it "South Philly style" and there's not going to be a damn thing I can do about it!The BEST part is, the Asshole forwarded his email to M and then when he saw her in person, he congratulated us and told her that it was a wonderful, selfless thing that she's doing. WTF?!? Talk about bipolar - maybe his manic self doesn't know what his depressive self does...