Monday, March 5, 2007

Now what??

After determining that I do appear to be fertile, we quickly set about negotiating the terms of the contract. I downloaded a surrogacy contract and retyped it, making a few changes that suited me. I emailed it to R & S who looked it over and emailed me with requested changes. What they asked for was very reasonable, so I agreed to everything, making the changes accordingly. We agreed to have one attorney review the contract for verbiage - not necessarily representing the best interests of either side, though he did lean towards R (which was expected given that she knows him and I don't). Some of his suggestions were reasonable, some were ridiculous - R and I reviewed them together, used the ones we both agreed upon and disregarded the rest. We found no points to argue - it was that simple; we had the contracts signed within the week.

Next came the preliminary testing - blood work all around!! HIV, Chlamydia, hepatitis, rubella, rh factor - and other things I'd never even heard of. We were all pronounced healthy and able to proceed. R's saline sonogram showed a healthy uterus, free of any tumors or blips or anything that might interfere with the implantation of an embryo; and she passed her psych evaluation with flying colors. B's semen analysis showed very high numbers (53 million, 40 million is considered good), with slightly decreased motility (34%, ideal is >50%). I did look online to find out what the parameters actually measure and found that to measure motility, they only count the sperm that swim really fast and in a straight line. This doesn't mean that other sperm are incapable of fertilizing an egg, just that they might have a harder time getting there. However, in our case, the sperm will be dropped in very close proximity, if not on top of the egg, thus having little to no swimming to do! Dr. M will evaluate the sample collected on the day of my retrieval and determine, at that time, whether he feels that ICSI is warranted.

Now that we've all been determined to be healthy and relatively sane, it's time to sync our cycles. R was started on active birth control pills on the 1st day of her last cycle; she's now on her 2nd pack. I had to pee on some more of those damn sticks, and submit to progesterone draws. I really think that we missed my last cycle entirely and were actually closer to starting a new cycle than we were to ovulation. So, now I'm having a series of progesterone checks - every 3-7 days, depending on the value of the preceeding test. Once my progesterone goes over 2, indicating that I have ovulated, I'll get to start on BCPs. They'll keep me on the active pills, to suppress ovulation, until they are ready to start the stimulation.

We were really hoping for an April transfer (that is to say, R and I were really hoping for an April transfer - not sure how the guys feel... B is kinda staying out of it at this point), but I don't think that's going to happen. I'll be in Ireland from the 20th to the 29th of April, then in Alabama for drill from the 4th through the 6th of May, then it's off to San Antonio for OBLC from the 28th of May until the 10th of June. AND, my commander says that he may send me off for an additional 5-7 days of training after OBLC!! R and I have discussed it extensively and, as much as I want to be there for the transfer, we agreed that we will go ahead if they can do the retrieval before I leave for Ireland; she'll do the transfer without me physically there (maybe I can call?). Otherwise, we're going to hopefully aim for that lapse between drill and OBLC.